[AKSU150]

I'm 19 years old, and have a problem with a new girlfriend. We had been seeing each other for a couple of months before I asked her back after a night out, and I couldn't get it up at all. This was a few months ago, and I was still a virgin. This was before we'd even done anything else before (I pressured myself into asking her back to mine), only kissed. We then didn't try anything for over a month, and then she started experimenting. I wasn't fully hard, but quite hard for the couple of times she went down on me.

Now she's my girlfriend, and we tried having sex again last week. We hadn't planned it, we were just making out and it happened. I was again quite hard (though not fully hard), and she was on top of me for a while, it wasn't really doing anything for me, and I couldn't feel much. I eventually just went soft after about 5 minutes. Naturally she thinks I don't find her attractive and that she doesn't turn me off, and she was even in tears about it when we talked about it the next day. I've obviously done what I can to convince her that is not that case, she is a gorgeous looking girl in fact. But now i'm starting to wonder whether my ED is a physical or mental problem.

I considered the other day that it's down to the condoms I used - Durex performa, which are thicker than average condoms designed for guys to last longer, so I thought that might be why I couldn't feel anything and went flacid. So I thought I may try a thinner condom like FetherLite, next time. But she said we won't try to have sex for a while, and I know it's as damaging to her as it is to me, so I don't want it to happen again.

However, it seems that even during masturbation, I'm never FULLY hard (until ejaculation), but I think this has been going on for a while. I only occasionally get full erections during masturbation. I'm VERY confused, and not sure what to do. Help?

[tubeular]

Being that you are only 19 and you should take the fact that you may ed problems very seriously. If you really think you have an ED problem then you first need to figure out if it is physical or psychological. If it is physical then you need pay attention to weather or not your still having night time errections/morning errections. Loss of night time errections is the first sign of impotence and is a serious health problem. a good article about on the subject can be here.
fhttp://www.health24.com/news/Erectile_dysfunction/1-908,33711.aspound
Also, I can tell you the numbness problem is not normal.

Physical causes of impotence can have a number of causes like hormal imbalances, prostate problems, and heart disease, and metabolic syndrom.
Also have you noticed any unusual pain or discomfort comming from the testies. If so, go the the emergency room and get an ultrasound and urine test done and make sure they do the ultrasound test while you are standing and not lying down.
Generally it's a good idea to get a sports physical to make sure you don't have any under lying condition.

Some things that may help you over all is frequent exercise, multivitamins, vitamin d, protein, good hydration, and eating foods rich in cholesterol like eggs(not too much though, no more then 1 or 2 eggs a day). Just to let you know cholesterol is the building blocks for your hormones.

Psychological reasons why you may have ed problems would be things like performace anxiety, lack of intimacy, frequent masterbation and depression. Performance anxiety would be something like the inablility to relax and be your self. Also I can tell you that if you lay off the masterbation normally you get an increased libedo as a result.

I hope this info gives you some help.